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Ok boys and girls, extremely serious question here and please respect it's topic.
I am in a situation with my new wife that has me pondering what is right, what is wrong and where I should stand on it.
My wife has three daughters, ages 16, 8 and 5. The 16 year old is from a very short 1st marriage, the other 2 were conceived in her 2nd marriage that lasted 10 years. I am choosing to leave the name of the religious entities out as this as they should have no bearing on the issue.
The 2 younger kids are going to a private religious school per demand of their father, whom by the way chose to move away from here and return to his hometown of Pennsylvania after the divorce. He is paying for their education and demanding they be raised in that religion and at that particular school.
My wife on the other hand has chosen not to practice that religion any longer, nor forces her other daughter to practice it either. The three of us (me, my wife and the oldest daughter) have chosen to attend a nondenominational Christian church which we enjoy together, yet we also take the two little ones with us on Sunday's.
My question and concerns are-
#1- Are we causing a division amongst our "family unit" by choosing separate entities of worship?
#2- Is my wife driving a wedge between her own 3 children by not raising them equally?
#3- Is it right to give in to the demands of the biological father of the 2 younger kids whom abandoned them and chose not to keep his family together?
#4- Are we causing confusion in the two little one's whom are being taught different beliefs in school?
#5- Am I in the wrong to not want to support any of these decisions based on the feelings I have just described?
These three kids should, IN MY OPINION, all be treated equally in every entity of the current family unit, as opposed to ex fathers demands. THIS is now the "family unit", not the past.
Please help me with this and again, please be respectful of my role as a stepfather, husband and any religious entity described.
I am in a situation with my new wife that has me pondering what is right, what is wrong and where I should stand on it.
My wife has three daughters, ages 16, 8 and 5. The 16 year old is from a very short 1st marriage, the other 2 were conceived in her 2nd marriage that lasted 10 years. I am choosing to leave the name of the religious entities out as this as they should have no bearing on the issue.
The 2 younger kids are going to a private religious school per demand of their father, whom by the way chose to move away from here and return to his hometown of Pennsylvania after the divorce. He is paying for their education and demanding they be raised in that religion and at that particular school.
My wife on the other hand has chosen not to practice that religion any longer, nor forces her other daughter to practice it either. The three of us (me, my wife and the oldest daughter) have chosen to attend a nondenominational Christian church which we enjoy together, yet we also take the two little ones with us on Sunday's.
My question and concerns are-
#1- Are we causing a division amongst our "family unit" by choosing separate entities of worship?
#2- Is my wife driving a wedge between her own 3 children by not raising them equally?
#3- Is it right to give in to the demands of the biological father of the 2 younger kids whom abandoned them and chose not to keep his family together?
#4- Are we causing confusion in the two little one's whom are being taught different beliefs in school?
#5- Am I in the wrong to not want to support any of these decisions based on the feelings I have just described?
These three kids should, IN MY OPINION, all be treated equally in every entity of the current family unit, as opposed to ex fathers demands. THIS is now the "family unit", not the past.
Please help me with this and again, please be respectful of my role as a stepfather, husband and any religious entity described.
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