Hoss the gays have the same problems that black Americans have. It is the 1-2% of the gays and blacks that give honest hard working members a bad name. Just like bad cops give the honest ones a bad name to endure.
I also know some gays and black Americans that do not try to shove their BS & lifestyle down everyone's throat and make good friends and neighbors.
RELH
There are very few "not put together well" gay men. Most I know are extremely fit and have really good jobs. None that I know would not go to work to show gay pride. Being gay doesn't define the ones I know.